Swagga Jacking, Betrayal, and New Years Resolutions in the City

Hiya Peeps,

Like most people my teenage years was the first time that I realised the world did not revolve around me.  It was also the first time I had my heart broken, fell out with my best friend and realised that mum and dad were just mere mortals. Can you imagine my distress?  More importantly, it was the first time I recognised the beauty of my peeps in a literal way. O.M.G I remember the very first time I read the autobiography of Malcolm X or hearing ‘don’t believe the hype’ by Public Enemy these were truly life changing experiences. It was also the first time that I realised that I was connected, not only to my family but also to my community...

Like most a teenagers I constantly felt misunderstood and confused at the euphoria of all those first life experiences. (remember the first time you partied all night) I was deflated by the intensity of growing pains that continue to hurt as I still attempt to grow-up. Since my teens I have been regularly shocked at what people will do to each other to achieve their ends.

  A friend’s mother died during the height of our teen years when her father brought a woman into her home within weeks of her mums passing the load of the betrayal was just too much. Especially, when the new wife tried to be a mother figure; her relationship with her father has been forever damaged even though the woman left years ago. Hot Damn! You’ve all heard the story about some friend or other who Man/woman was using joint assets to support a new partner. Damn!

Has any-one else noticed that other people who have not been affected by whatever situation are always talking some forgive and forget. ‘You need to move on etc etc... I know, because guess what? I have said it a few times myself. How can you forgive and forget the pain that is so deep you think you might never breathe again? Who has the right to tell the victim when they have had long enough to heal?  I am one of these annoying glass half full types. But sometimes asking others for forgiveness is asking just a bit too much. (In principal I hate these negative thoughts) 

 

Remember when Maddona's brother did a tell all book? Unforgiveable!

Everyday some fool will try to 'Jack Yo' Swag'. But only you can empower them. Unfortunately family, partners and friends can be the ones that hurt you.  These cuts will be deeper that others because these are the peeps we love and trust the most. It is a vital survival skill to understand an individuals place in your camp and the position you play in theirs. Meaning not all peeps can roll on the front line, and not every-one you have selected will deserve to be there. You may need to make regular changes to your line up. My New Years Resolution? Yes you have guessed it. ‘Tek weh mi self’ You guys have all heard the reggae anthem. (Thanks for this one J it’s a classic)  In other words  I'm staying away from toxic relationships that are no good for me. 

 http://youtu.be/Rwr0-hLzZqw

Shout out to all  my front line crew...