After spending most of our youth being told not to get pregnant. There comes a time when if your not subscribing to mummy-hood/ fathehood socially there is somthing wrong with you. For example, as a woman If you admit in a public arena that you do not not see motherhood in your future; both women and men are shocked and seemingly appalled. These folk will trip all over themselves to express how beautiful the babies and family life is; but what they forget is that we their friends have witnessed their transformation form sex kitten to mother earth. Sometimes, the sex kitten was just more interesting. I know it’s politically incorrect to say that other people children are a bore, but really!!! There is only so much potty training, nappy rash and pureed food a person can take. Personally I don’t mind when friends become baby bores as it’s just a stage that will usually pass. Yawn....
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| We were all obsessed by Beyonce becoming a mummy |
We all know that the world is over populated, city dwellers more than most have to really consider the pitfalls of raising a family in the urban jungle. So what’s wrong with being young , financially stable and physically able but choosing that babies are not in your life plan. In the last year I have given over many a friend to mummy/fatherhood and while I really enjoy seeing a couple transformed by the love created by family life there is no doubt that it changes everything. Small things that childless couples take for granted become so much more challenging when raising a family in the city.
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| The ultimate power family |
More and more of my sistah-friends are deciding that a family is way down on their agenda's choosing to prioritise careers, travel and personal wealth. Today I spoke with a man who was slightly more mature but had no children. He explained to me that his woman’s decision not to have any children with him was key to their break-up. He has moved on to a woman that he loves less but would fulfil his need to become a father. He believes that although he spent ten years with the first woman that she did not love him in an epic Adam and Eve kind of way or she would have popped out at least one.
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| Oprah has famously decided never to have children of her own |
What pressure us ladies are under....
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Speaking as a man who is family-oriented but without children, I must say that it was refreshing to read a somewhat unconventional perspective on the issue of raising a family. Having a family is definitely on my list of priorities, however, it is not something that I feel would make my life incomplete if I didn't accomplish it. Nor am I willing to sacrifice my standards to have one. I could write a complete dissertation on this matter but instead I will just say: Great post, Coco! Keep them coming!
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