Black Love in the City

Okay, peeps I know it’s mid-week but I need to get grown and sexy on ya for this one.

Why is it that sistahs are always trying to convince me there are but a few good black men in London City?  Actually this seems to be an endemic that women residing in cities worldwide are spouting this trash.  Now I know I said the honey’s were not feeling my hair in it’s natural kink and I stand by this however I do believe that some of us are just plain bitter.

You...... I’m talking to you, who had your heart broken three years ago and are now spreading propaganda that there are no decent  men out there. Or they are with white women, on drugs, locked up or just straight crazy.  After racking up many a t-mobile hour discussing this subject with various girly friends I have decided to put in print what I know to be true.

Brothers are just like us ladies good, bad and just plain crazy.  After a hard week on their grizzle they just want to let their hair down and play.  Either with a homie lover friend, wifey or neighbourhood hoe.  Whoever happens to be available.  Meaning if they do not want to be in a couple or simply have not found the ‘one’ Ms right now will do.  Now most of the time if you been dealing with a dude for a while you know if he don’t want you.  Play your position.   Do not try to turn Jagged Edge into Sade, a hoe into a house husband; sometimes he‘s just not that into you.  NEXT!

The type of man that most of us have on our wish list good smelling, good family, good credit etc... Also require that we have our business together.   For example, you may not be able to get a guy that works on his physique four times a week if you are a little fluffy.  Although you might, as the front speaks louder than the gut.  But you should not be demanding from others what you are not able to offer; that’s all I’m saying.

Finally, I know a lot of women who date outside their race and their behinds are single too.  Finding that Luther Vandross kind of love in any colour ain’t easy for either sex.   If love was that simple to find it wouldn’t hold the same value when you came across that special some-one.  I view singledom as an opportunity to step your game up ladies.  Can some- body say Michelle Obama Yo!  Relationships are hard work and many of the married women who I speak with on this testify that they are constantly in the trenches trying to keep love alive.  Many of their relationships have become emotionally redundant but for various reasons they continue to stick with it.  From what I have witnessed personally this keep hope alive approach, tends to work out for a lot of couples but not all.

Worst case scenario bad boys need love too.lol